The people who study, work and teach in our community! In this series, we invite you to take an authentic look at the lives of our students, faculty, staff and alumni as we share why #WeAreUNB.
When I first got accepted to UNB Saint John, and they asked me to come play down here, I never thought in a million years that I’d be playing university volleyball, at all. So it was kind of surreal for me to have my first practice and just sit there and be like, ‘Wow, I actually made it. I’m playing for a university, I’m getting my degree.' I’m doing everything I wanna do right now and it’s perfect.
Sexual well-being is important to people. And yet, many people aren’t as sexually satisfied as they could be. This is because they have knowledge gaps, comfort gaps, negative attitudes and anxiety about sex, their sex life is influenced by too many “shoulds” that don’t really fit for them, or they have difficulty communicating their sexual likes and dislikes. To enhance their sexual well-being and sexual satisfaction, people need to learn to accept themselves for who they are. They need to be properly educated, make decisions based on their own values, and learn to communicate openly and positively about sexuality.
Success to me is cultivating integrity, never compromising compassion, and helping create a society that nurtures those who are marginalized. Having survived conversion therapy that I was pushed into as a minor, the harms of that abuse linger - despite the trauma, plus a brief period of homelessness, I’m here only because of those who loved me in the darkest seasons of my life. I credit my supportive network, some of whom I met at UNB, like my caring thesis supervisors, Dr. Alison Luke and Dr. Shelley Doucet. Everything I am is thanks to the love I received from my family - biological and chosen - therefore, success is extending that love, creating a society built on integrity and compassion.
Thinking that what you’re going through is not valid of an emotional response, I think that can be way more damaging than people realize. Just kind of slowly, but subtly, pushing and pushing something down until eventually it can manifest into something more. It’s OK to not feel OK. Good mental health doesn’t mean you’re just always happy all the time. It means you’re able to navigate and are aware of your emotions, and can cope with the ups and downs that come along with them.
What you put into it is what you get out. I feel like if you just go to school and you grumble and you complain just to get through it, to get a degree, then that’s what you’ll get. But if you really take ownership of the experience and follow your heart and do stuff that you enjoy, it will pay you back.
You can’t do it all on your own. I think a lot of people, especially now that owning your own business is so over-glorified and sensationalized, there’s this impression that you’ve got to be this superstar who knows everything, but it just doesn’t work that way. It’s OK to not know everything. You’re gonna need advice. You’re gonna need other people who are experts to tell you what to do.
We know that for all these kids, when they’re going to school, it’s pretty stressful for them. Between exams, projects, and so on and so forth. So when they come up to the counter, if we can put a smile on their face, then we’re doing something right.
I was an international student myself and, I’ve gotta admit, it is one of the biggest advantages that really contributes to my job as a Transition Advisor. I’ve always wanted to make changes and would bring everyone together when I was younger; now here I am, advocating international students from personal matters to professional development. My favourite part of the job is being able to provide cultural awareness to the UNB campus and the greater New Brunswick community.
I've struggled with math a lot. That feeling of ‘I can’t get this, I’m not good at this,' and 'I’ve learned about as much math as my brain can handle’ - I know that feeling. I see it in my students. They don’t think I know that feeling, but I do. I've overcome it, and so can they.
The best part about being here at UNB is that you could get involved in so many ways to get the best of experiences and bring out the best version of yourself, no matter which faculty or program you are in. From being a TEDxUNB delegate to a RedShirt, each and every single experience I have had helped me evolve as a person and put me a step closer to achieving the things I always wanted to pursue.
It feels like every day that I’m at UNB, I’m changing. It’s very cheesy to say, but I feel like the best version of myself when I’m here because there are so many opportunities, and so many people to share them with. The people that I choose to surround myself with are constantly pushing themselves to be better; the peer mentors, my fellow proctors, my team, my friends. They motivate me to do better.
Teaching’s kind of like parenting. Every cohort or class is different, therefore you need to have different approaches. Students are not only learning marketing, they are also learning to learn. If you’re able to teach your students to learn, it’s the most important skill you can help them acquire.
I’ve been to five universities and none of them has paralleled the close community that is created at UNB. That would be its biggest strength in my eyes. It has strong professors, strong academic programs, strong extra-curricular programs, athletic and non-athletic activities; but it’s that close-knit community that really makes it stand out.
Apply to all the universities, apply for all the scholarships, because you never know. You might think, ‘That’s not going to be for me’ or ‘I’m not good enough for that’, but you really are. Put yourself out there and get involved – you won’t regret it.
